That’s the explanation my friend offered when I told him I got the job: Good things come to those who wait.
Yes, at long last, I have landed a decent job – more than decent, actually. The salary is almost 50% more than what I was making previously and the company isn’t spiraling the drain. It even checks off most of the items on the list of what I want in a job: good pay, mentoring, challenges, promotion potential, involvement, appreciation, having a sense of purpose. I was dreading the idea of reentering a rigid corporate environment, but (thanks in large part to the salary) I am now excited to begin this new chapter.
I don’t believe, however, that patience is what brought about my turn of good fortune. A good amount of work and effort went in to bringing about this result. So, is it that the saying is wrong? Or, is it another way of promoting persistence and patience? What is the alternative to waiting? Do bad things come to those who don’t wait?
Perhaps the saying should more specifically be “good things come to those who wait for the good things instead of just settling for what’s available or even wrong.”
You know, in my younger years, I truly did believe that good things would come to me if I was patient. And I waited and waited, and prayed, and cried, became severely depressed when nothing good was happening to me. All I felt was pain and suffering and I would cry out to God: “why is my life so terrible and disappointing when I have been so patient?” I wanted the friends, the boyfriend, the beauty, the intellect, the money, and I looked at myself and saw that I had none of those things. I was a failure, taught to want things I didn’t really know how to get. I hated myself and was miserable for years – but I was patient, right? I toughed it out and kept moving forward in my life even when it was difficult to do so.
This may be another one of those instances where if the saying is old, it may be true, and my interpretation of it is wrong or incomplete.
These days, when you listen to or read about people who do have good things, you hear that good things come to those who work for them. Or, rather, great things come to those who work for them. Is the quote touting the virtuosity of patience a sort of validation for those who are good people yet unambitious? This view is confirmed to me when I watch Lewis Howes’ YouTube channel, The School of Greatness. I listen to him interview remarkable individuals and the value they each have in common is the aspiration to greatness. So, then, the question to all of us is: Do you aspire to greatness, or are you content with ‘good enough’?
I tell myself now, that while I aim to care a great deal about this step in my career path, I must not allow it to define me. I must keep sight of my ultimate goal of becoming a writer, an author. I will fall back into restlessness and lack of purpose if I turn my attention away from that which I am meant to do. As those who have achieved it say, the potential for greatness lives within each of us. The purpose of greatness, I believe, is to have an impact – a positive impact – on humanity, the world, the planet.
Perhaps the case is that with time, you will learn the lessons you must before you are ready to receive the gifts you are destined to receive.